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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And you don't see the difference between an applicant who is older because they have gained life experience and an applicant who is a senior in high school as a 19 year old because their parents didn't think they could hack it in kindergarten?[/quote]

I don't think colleges will care that much. The fact that a kid is turning 19 senior year, most likely during second semester or in the summer after, is not going to bother colleges that much. There has always been some variation in the age kids are when they apply to college. A couple of decades ago, one of my freshman year roommates was from Hong Kong and turned 20 shortly after the start of our freshman year. My college didn't care that she was a year or two older than most of the other freshmen. She was paying full freight.

The kid who is a little older is likely to be more mature and will probably need less handholding and support. A more mature freshman is less likely to do dumb things and cause the college trouble and cost them money. It's a plus for the college to enroll kids who are a little older. 
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Many of us went to college 17/18 without doing dumb things or costing money... our parents prepared us for college and taught us how to care for ourselves.  They also nurtured us so we knew we could call when we need help.  I knew I had 4 years at college then graduate school.  I knew how much I could spend and if I needed something high cost beyond books, I'd call and ask.  You start teaching this when your kids are young.  [/quote]

Of course some kids go to college earlier and do fine, but some kids will do better with a little more maturity. People are all different and what works for one may not work for another. Colleges recognize that in their applicants and accept individuals. Applicants come from all over the US and the rest of the world. Admissions officials don't have time to check on every school system's entry age rules. 
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Or, parents can step up and teach their kids the life skills they need to be successful... but most parents do not want to put in that time or effort, especially if they cannot be bothered teaching their kids before K. or helping with homework.  Maturity comes partly with parenting and being taught life skills.  You cannot complain kids cannot manage money, etc. if they've never been taught.[/quote]

Overparenting doesn't help either.  And recent consensus is that parents should NOT be helping kids with homework, and certainly not "teaching" kids before kindergarten.  If by teaching you mean forcing them to learn letters and numbers, rather than reading to them, taking them out for walks in nature, cooking with them, and giving them blocks to play with.

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2014/04/and-dont-help-your-kids-with-their-homework/358636/[/quote]

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