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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]once you are in your 30s and out of the workforce for 5-8 years, your career is generally over. There are exceptional outliers, but most job markets have plenty of labor supply [/quote]

Really? Is this true?[/quote]

No. This is scared women trying to make themselves feel better, or smug, or superior. There are tons of moms who went back to work- gasp- on this very board. They tell their stories all the time.[/quote]
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My wife was one of these.  She found a job.  If you're a good interviewer and can bring something to the table you'll be fine.  Plus, most people realize why you took time off and respect that.  When I look at candidates for a position I know I do[/quote]

+2 I call BS also. I SAHM for nine years and went back to work after a week of looking. Yes, its an anecdote, but DC has a lot of jobs and if you stay current with your network you have a great shot. One of my BFs has stayed at home for almost ten years and she went back to work a few months ago after about a month of looking. So, stop with the scare tactics already. Much hiring relies on personal connections, not abstract notions like "labor supply" -- so stay friendly with former colleagues and bosses. Chances are they will be happy to help you out.

Absolutely no one I know in the workforce judged me for having been a SAHM. I have to come to an anonymous forum for that.

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My neighbor has an Ivy undergrad and law degree but after 10+ years at home can't get more than volunteer work in the field. So perhaps the field matters quite a bit. [/quote]

Or the type of job you're looking for.  I'm sure you could find an average job fairly easily. But a cush high paying job ?  I think that has to be much harder.  [/quote]

PP who SAHM and then got a job quickly -- I agree. Especially with law firms. I guess I was lucky to be in the lowly writing/editing world.[/quote
PP who was asking about option for wide to stay home sounded like they needed the money for long term goals.[b] Freelance editing to fund a shoe habit is definitely possible;[/b] a career with benefits 401k and substantial salary different story. Look at it as employer: what skills in recent experience relate to the job vs competitors with recent training out of college. Coupled with precedent of leaving the workforce entirely for years, it's a gamble many employers are reluctant to make. But for freelance low paid jobs, one off projects, sure. [/quote]

You are so obnoxious.

I returned to the writing/editing world as a normal employee with benefits and a 401k and I don't have a shoe habit.

I'll never make what a lawyer makes, but guess what? I was never going to, whether I SAHM or not. You know, the world of women consists of more than high-powered career women. In fact, those women are the minority, the VAST minority. [/quote]

You are missing the point. Women staying home and fooling themselves that it doesn't impact their career is part of why we had that ghastly article in the times about how women entering a field cause wages to drop. It we championed more part time professional jobs, and husbands that 'pitched' in, women and men could have interesting rewarding careers and be home with their kids. Instead of pushing for part time, women just drop out, and then come back with stale skills and a propensity to drop out again when they realize what a hassle it is -- and then employers use that experience as internal justification to ding all women. Men and women should be pushing for a better more family orientated deal. [/quote]

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