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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here again, I agree with y'all on healthy family dinners and modeling for DS and all that good stuff. I was thinking that would all time nicely with our son starting a few hours of pre-school. Still really appreciating all the great suggestions! [/quote]

No, the modeling starts now.  You should be eating meals (even if just mini meals) with him, he should be eating what you eat, so he can see that people eat real, healthy, nutritious food, that healthy food taste good and people enjoy eating it.  By the time your son is ready for preschool (2.5 -3 years old at the earliest) those food prejudices many times have already been formed.  The power struggles have already started.  I see TONS of kids at that age who won't touch any vegetable or a fruit, who only eat white flour (pasta with butter or rice or grill cheese, etc) the parents claim they are powerless. And then these "phases" last and last and you have a picky kindergartner who turns into a picky 5th grader who turns into a picky high schooler, etc.   Don't set yourself up and your child to fail over your own marital power struggle re who is right and who is wrong for making dinner.  Show your child, from the beginning, that we respect our bodies by giving it the good food we need, that mommy is important because she also takes care of her health this way, that trying new foods is fun, that eating meals together is fun, etc.  Kids are watching and absorbing, even at your DS's young age.

Do you want to be "right" or do you want your family and home to be happy?  [/quote]

[b]Thanks pp, not sure what more I can do about this.  I sit and eat all meals with my child. All meals for him include a grain, a protein, a veggie, and a fruit. He eats 4x per day, I only eat 3x per day, but when he's eating, I am right there. We have conversations, talk about what is on the plate, etc. I don't really call that "cooking" but my priority is that he gets healthy and varied meals. He eats before DH gets home though, so I'm the rep for the family dinner. I follow the advice that your "phone should b off the hook" during mealtimes, and it is so. DS always sits with me in his booster seat thingy at the table. I'm never doing housework while he eats, and I don't feed him while he's playing or on the floor etc.[/b] [/quote]

PP again, who was sort of giving you a pass a bit ago when you mention all of DH's travel. I just read this as I scrolled backwards, and I have to say, while I see your point of view and understand you to an extent, you are making a REALLY big deal out of a very basic thing, which is feeding a baby. You can be as specific with your details as you want, and make a huge deal about putting down your phone while your baby eats, but honestly, that's your problem right there. You're wasting time. You SHOULD be getting stuff done while the baby eats and is safe in his high chair. Despite what you may choose to believe, or what your AP blogs have told you, your child isn't getting much out of you sitting there watching him eat and describing his food (which takes what, 1.5 seconds to say "chicken, peas, pear, rice"? Come on, OP. Get over yourself. Your child will get much, much more out of a happy household with married parents than you staring at him while he eats (and patting yourself on the back for doing so).

You hate the drudgery of food shopping and prep, and you think you have an excuse not to do it because you're such an involved parent. You want to cherry-pick the household duties and only do what you want and enjoy, but that's not very grown-up and sounds spoiled. This does not bode well for your marriage. You need to adjust to your new role and step up, or go back to work and divide things differently. You're trying to have it all your way, and I feel bad for your DH.[/quote]

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