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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents spanked me and I cannot say it changed my relationship with them.  I honestly don't think I was that affected by being spanked.  (?)  Does anyone else feel like this?  [/quote]

Yes. It was just natural, and something that you earned if you were really bad. (I'm a guy.) I remember being put over both of their knees at different points in time.[/quote]

Yeah, same here.  (I'm a female.)  It was just something natural.  No big deal (to me).  [/quote]

Do you spank your kids now?[/quote]

Yes, I have spanked them.  Open hand, over clothing, on the bottom.[/quote]

At what ages, and for what offenses? Do they go over your lap?[/quote]

They're 3 and 7 now.  No, I don't make them lean over my lap.  [/quote]

Did you talk with DH about how this would be carried out? Does it just happen? Do you tell the kids beforehand, and have that discussion?[/quote]

DH does not spank them.  I think he had a bad experience with spankings and does not trust himself not to fly too far off the handle.  He leaves much of this type of discipline to me, and is ok with me spanking them if necessary.  If I spanked them, I tell him about it afterwards and we talk about what happened and brainstorm about what is going on, etc.  With the kids, beforehand, as it is usually the last resort after multiple misbehaviors and acting out, I usually say something like, "If you do that one more time, you are getting a spanking."  And then it is their choice to do it again or not.  [/quote]

And then you call them over to spank them, or you just walk over and do it? And then what?

I'm not flaming. We spank, also. Just a little differently, so I wonder how people arrive at these procedures.[/quote]\\

I walk over and spank them.  And then usually the kid cries, and stops their behavior, and after a minute or two, we say, "[b]Mommy didn't want to spank you but I told you not to do x and you just kept on doing it.  Next time you have to be a better listener."  or something like that[/b].  [/quote]

That's exactly what spousal abusers say. "I didn't want to hit you, but you made me because of your bad behavior."
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np. Can we stop with the illogical analogies to spousal relationships? they've been proven a fallacy many times already. If your DH put you in timeout, that would also constitute an abusive relationship.[/quote]

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