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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Yeah, you can die on that hill if you want, but I'd rather make the effort to give them the food they want so that my family could have the party and my BIL and SIL would come. OP seems pretty familiar with what the kids will eat. If they act up she can insist that BIL and SIL take them out. Too much drama about these kids. But honestly,[b] if it is that big a deal to OP and her dad, then they did what they had to do, and they'll have to live with the inevitable blowback from BIL and SIL.[/b]

I think the picky eating is the least of the problems here. It is inevitable that these children will be rude and disruptive and then when the SIL is asked to remove them she will throw a hissy and be rude and disruptive. Rotten apples didn't fall far from the tree.[/quote]

Ok, then, see bolded point.  I mean, if the question is how OP can make BIL and SIL feel ok about the fact that she said that the kids are brats and she doesn't want them at the party, that's pretty ridiculous, regardless of whether her feelings about the kids are valid.  [/quote]

I think BIL and SIL are well aware that these kids are brats, they didn't need to be told.

I also really disagree with you here. I think OP has stressed how she has walked on eggshells to the point of being stressed out about it. That everyone else has washed their hands of the situation and she is left dealing with it. There was seriously no win here. They come = party ruined. None invited = drama caused. I think she hoped by as she put it "gently" talking to her SIL and saying they would likely not enjoy themselves was the best she could try to do. Still it backfired.[/quote]

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