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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. It has almost been a month since I found out he cheated during our engagement, but I have not yet made a decision of whether to stay or divorce. I have agreed to go to marriage counseling, which we just started on a weekly basis. My hope is that the counseling will help in the interim period, and will also help me make a decision. He is also going to individual counseling, sometimes x2 a week.

He's doing all of the "right" things - counseling, reading books, providing complete transparency, daily stating his regret in hurting me and love for me. He gives me space when I need it (most of the time), he talks whenever I want to. We're still sleeping apart and I'm still spending most of my time at home alone, by choice. At the encouragement of our marriage counselor, I tried to spend some time with him this past weekend. We ran a few errands, took a walk, watched a TV show together. But it was a little overwhelming and felt both too normal and too strained, if that makes sense, and I've withdrawn again, which right now, feels safer. The shock and numbness has worn off, and I've accepted that he has done what he has done. I'm equally angry and heartbroken. I'm just not ready to either walk away completely or move into being fully committed to try to reconcile. The limbo is pretty awful, but I know as uncomfortable as it is, a rash decision, one way or another, would be a poor choice.

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