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[quote=Anonymous]OP has already stated that he has tried to communicate with DW about this, and she always resorts to what I consider emotional blackmail - crying, acting out, etc. Theatrics has no place in a productive, normal, adult conversation. DW is crying in order to evade the conversation.

If she wants to be a SAH, then she needs to own it, and Discuss it clearly, calmly, and rationally with OP. She needs to bring her own part to the table, which is both to answer exactly why it is important for her not to return to the workforce at this time, and to address OPs concerns about insurance, financial stability, family work life balance, etc. She doesn't get to just decide, and not put in the legwork to help plan the solution to the consequences. They also need to discuss expectations of what the new roles mean for home responsibility and division of labour, finances, etc. That's what a team/ couple do.

OP, I totally understand your resentment and frustration. Histrionics have no place in this. I think if you were clear on what's going on, you wouldn't feel so resentful. Good for you for going to counselling. your wife sounds like she could benefit from some too. [/quote]

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