Reply to Defaulted into main breadwinner

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Defaulted into main breadwinner"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - any news?

I don't get why this has become a flame war on SAH vs WOH.  This really doesn't seem to be about that but about communication in the marriage, and making unilateral decisions.[/quote]

Because SAH moms ON THIS THREAD (not universally) think their "calling" to be a wife and mother gives them the right to stop working without discussing it with their husbands and go so far as to call the man a loser/selfish for not being the "default" breadwinner.

This might be the 1st DCUM thread where a large group of women are defending the position of the man.[/quote]

Really, it isn't surprising, [b]there is a diehard contingent of posters who are always happy and eager to attack another woman's desire to be a SAH mom[/b].

OP, I hope you and your wife can develop better communication skills so that you can understand what her motivations are, and she can understand why you are stressed.  It sounds like you do want this marriage to work, so I'd ignore all the crazy ranting of "unilateral decision," and work with your wife to get to a place where you are both happy.[/quote]

No one on this thread has attacked OP's wife's desire to SAH.  No one.

What most (including me) take issue with is her acting on that desire (and thereby vastly changing her family's situation in many ways) without any discussion of any kind with her husband, and her ongoing refusal to engage in any discussion (via crying).[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics