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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it's not about your attractions anymore, it is about kids. And there are different parenting philosophies but most people agree that it is best for kids to be with mom in their early years IF mom is happy to stay at home. I think your wife is, however tired she may seem. 
So, she does crafts with kids instead of cooking YOU dinner? The horror! Again, it's not about you. 
Be an adult, just cook the darn dinner or bring takeout, and yes, do that deep cleaning on a weekend! Just trust me, being with kids all day is an important and hard JOB. Lots of people choose to go to work, nothing wrong with that, but please please give your wife an opportunity to do her job if this is what she chooses. You don't have to understand, just appreciate. 
You don't realize how much she takes off your shoulders. Do you want to stay home with sick kids? do you want to do pickups, dropoffs, rain or shine? do you want to take them to doctors appointments? doesn't seem like it from your post. So please, just leave her alone. [/quote]
He IS being an adult by bankrolling another adult who chooses to get a free ride without discussing with her husband first.  Do you ever just walk into a job and announce that you work here now?

What exactly is she taking off his shoulders other than childcare? Not cooking. Not cleaning.  [b]The woman forced herself onto a job, and she isn't even very good at it. [/b]Yeah, he doesn't have to understand, he just has to fund it, according to you. [/quote]

And that's one of the big problems here.  Staying at home is a job -- and if you're not good at that job, you shouldn't be doing it!  It sounds like she is good at one part of that job, childcare, but she's not good at all the other responsibilities this job entails.  If there is an agreement that everything else will be outsourced, that's one thing, but that's not what happened here.  I totally understand OP's frustration, and it's legitimate.

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