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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it. I once dated a guy and after our second date I found out he was also dating at least one other girl. I shouldn't have cared, but I want a guy to like me so much when we go out that he can't even think about going on a date with somebody else. He was a great guy and had good long term potential, but I just couldn't bring myself to not be #1 and to date somebody who wasn't totally crazy about me. Oh well. My loss, but that's the way I work.

I have no doubt that if the sexes were reversed here that nobody would have a problem with OP's behavior. Her only mistake was being seen out with the other guy.[/quote]

I'm confused. In your case, the sexes were reversed and you did have a problem with it.

It seems to me that this thread has sort of split into two issues: (1) OP having sex with multiple partners and gender perspectives on this, and (2) OP transparency to guy 1 in her relationships, and how/when should exclusivity be discussed or assumed. These are clearly related, but still seem like distinct topics.[/quote]

I would add that the issue some have (and I'm a guy) is that she clearly wants to have a LTR with guy#1 - though it hasn't been entirely clear if she has communicated that to him (and irrespective of the talk about being exclusive)l but wants to sleep with other guys on the side.   And it all went to pot when she was busted by guy #1 while she was out with guy #2 and acting lovey-dovey.  These seem to be the actual facts based on OP's op.

Then the discussion initially started with either you are serious or you're not.  No problem with either-or - but there is a problem, as one PP said, in 'trying to have your cake and eat it too'.  Everything else has been speculation, projecting, frustration, etc. and a basic downward spiral of what was going to be an interesting conversation.[/quote]

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