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You do realize this works both ways, right?  DW isn't having her needs met outside the bedroom so her level of desire and attraction is low.  She complains and DH says he would be better if he got more sex.  She complies but still doesn't get what she wants and the downward spiral begins.[/quote]

This is bullshit.

It's possible that some guy somewhere some time has promised his wife he'd clean the garage if she gave him a BJ, and then she gave him a BJ, and then he didn't clean the garage.  Maybe that has happened some time, although probably not more than once in any given relationship.

On the other hand, it is clear from this thread and others that lots of women have told their husbands they're not in the mood for sex because a lengthy set of conditions haven't been met.  Those poor saps then meet the conditions, only to find that the fine print still reads, "I'm tired."

Stop acting like the high-desire man and the low-desire woman are playing the same game.[/quote]

I am one of those poor saps.. I made a deal that for every large contractor bag full of stuff I cleaned out of storage.. I would be able to do something.   After over 8 of those full large bags noThing happened.  My DW and I have made several "deals" only to have me make the effort and she make none.  So I stopped cleaning out our storage and when she complains about it.. I remind her.  But my DW has been trying to get the kids to pressure me to clean out the storage area... That pisses me off.  I have been tempted to tell my kids that their mom and I made a deal and their mom did not live up to her end of the bargain.

Yes I know this sounds like a bad situation.. The irony is that I want to get out of the marriage and before I can do anything... I need to go through and purge what is in. Storage.  But now I have a different motivation.

I do not understand why two married people just can't have fun and have a healthy sex life rather than create drama over stupid little things.  If your S/O is helping with your kids and around the house.  And they fulfill their role in the family.. Bread winner or sahm or etc.. Stop being selfish and help each other.[/quote]

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