Reply to What to tell child who is product of an affair?

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "What to tell child who is product of an affair?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of this advice is crazy. Blackmail him into having a relationship with your dd? Are you nuts? Fast forward 15 years when he throws that back in her face. Self esteem destroyed. If it even gets that far! It's not 1955. You try to blackmail him, it all comes out. So what? His wife will get mad then stand by him, you will be publicly vilified by the press and contact with your dd with likely end.

If he really is famous, you should be afraid of exposure as well. All of the vitriol that you got on this thread x 1 million. The names you'll be called. Look at politicians and look at how they survive. Look at their mistresses. It's not pretty. The media are vicious and mean. And your dd will get this thrown in her face in school, don't you worry about it. Instead of being a dd of a single mom, EVERYONE will be talking about her "dad" and calling her names. School will be terrible for her. Her name will be permanently googleable. This will follow her to high school, college.

DO NOT DO THIS TO YOUR CHILD. [/quote]

These are all excellent points -- the very reasons I haven't outed him already and have no plans to do so. The question isn't should I pick up the phone and make it public; it never was. The question is do I tell her he is alive? Does she need to know his name? Does she need to know it was an affair or just that her father isn't around? Would she be better off if I said I didn't know who her father is or how to find him?

I realize I don't need to tell her anything now. She calls our dog Dada but I don't think she understands what a dad is at this point. I just want to have it figured out so I can be consistent from the beginning.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics