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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My neighbors and friends are lovely. But we aren't McMansion country-club social-status strivers. [/quote]

Oh come on, I see this toxic nonsense in Burke. Don’t act like this is limited to Arlington and McLean. [/quote]

Sometimes/often, the rich people have better manners than the middle class … I say this as a thoroughly middle class person. There is cliquey weirdness everywhere. People get offended if your kid is better than theirs on the swim team,  dance classes, if they’re in AAP or whatever. But they also get offended and think you’re weird/unusual if you don’t do swim team, Girl Scouts, or whatever sport/activity at all. [/quote]

A lot of truth here. Status anxiety can make people very conformist, because they want reassurance they aren't falling behind. I also think people are scared to associate with someone who might have lowered status (based on income, education, job, family background) which makes them much more judgmental and likely to exclude.

Whereas when you are comfortable in your stays and resources, none of this matters. You don't sit around worrying you'll fall behind or get pulled down by associating with people further down the food chain.

That's why they call it "eff you money." Because you can afford not to care what anyone thinks of you.[/quote]

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