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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I found people who allegedly very smart and educated simply don't plan and look ahead to a life raising kids. They plunge in and then are somehow SHOCKED at hard and expensive it is.

When my DH started pushing for a family (I had told him I didn't want children) I told him how much daycare would be, he screamed "But that is as much as our mortgage!"

Yep, I told him.

We compromised on 1 child, and he worked from home while I kept my much more stable job.

We had a very modest 3 bedroom home.

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:roll: oh FFS 
Imagine thinking systemic economic and political issues affecting millions in the US, not to mention globally = people didnt plan.
Also really insightful coming from someone who didnt want kids.
Lastly, using modest in your post is all kinds of reckless. 
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Excuses, excuses.

I concur the setup is rigged against families, but you have to play the hand you are dealt.

My starter home was a 3/2 cinderblock we could pay on one of our salaries. We might still be there if we hadn't switched states.

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You show your age when you say starter home FYI. Its like the other poster (maybe same poster) using modest when being an utter c^nt. You agree the deck is stacked, the house always wins, "rigged" BUT you still buy into the whole bootstaps schtick as evidenced by your comment. The cognitive dissonance is giving Nasdaq Fast Entry vibes. [/quote]

Nasty language does not prove your point.

In my family, one of us worked nights and weekends to slash daycare needs.

What's your solution exactly? Whine and complain about it?

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Slash daycare? No daycare I know offers a part time option. So you were out of house from 830-530 (Assume strict 8 hour shift which doesn’t even exist anymore and 30 min commute).  Then your spouse left at 530 and works 8 hours and returns home at 230am?  Sleep 6 hours and then wake up to watch the kids?

I guess I won’t complain about my working parent juggle, this sounds like misery and you barely see your spouse. [/quote]

No. I worked nights and weekends. At the same place as my spouse. So we overlapped. I worked 24 hours a week at that time with shift differentials.

Baby sitter 3 days a week from 4 to 7.

And it was temporary.  We only had 1 child because we knew how hard and expensive it was.

In middle school I easily slipped back into day hours.

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So you only worked part time?  In some hourly job that paid shift differential? The places you could even afford a starter home in that scenario in majority of places. [/quote]

I don't really understand your second sentence.

We had the home for many years before our child was born. We had also socked money away. We did many different scenarios over the course of my kid's child hood so he wouldn't have to spend a ton of time in daycare. Right after he was born, I had the good job, so I worked full time and my husband freelanced. Then he got a great job offer, and we moved and switched my husband being the main breadwinner. 10 years later, we switched roles again.

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So you are talking about buying a starter home over 20 years ago. Thanks for playing. [/quote]

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