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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I certainly hope that he and his future wife stay together till death. But the reality is that most marriages will end in divorce. I've seen too many men who are successful at work end up screwed by wives who don't want to work, even when they don't have children with their husbands. I truly hope that this sort of attitude fades out with the next generation and ceases to be the norm, and that our laws are rewritten in a wayn that's based on modern expectations and norms. But till then, I warn all my married & family male friends to not reside in VA.

One thing that people don't get is that the current prevailing beliefs about marriage and family used by courts creates huge disincentives for wives to work to their true financial potential. When I divorced, I was earning over $100K, which meant zero alimony for me. Had I "known" that I would get free housing and living expenses for another decade if I just quit my job, I might have done so. I probably wouldn't have, but I wish I'd made those decisions knowingly. [/quote]

I think it is hard to claim “getting screwed over” when many of these situations have been allowed to continue in the marriage (which implies consent of the breadwinner) for many, many years. If a woman staying home was truly temporary due to job loss or difficult family situation- being out of the workforce for a year or two would not change the financial picture much anyway. Instead, there are scenarios of women staying home for 10-15 years, and then the man being totally shocked/indignant about that being factored into a divorce settlement. I mean…he agreed to the situation- did he not? He could’ve said something (or divorced) at the 1, 2, 3, or 5 year mark but instead let this go on for decades. In many cases, he agreed fully and let her stay home because it was to his great benefit at the time. Is that really “getting screwed”? Most men- of any financial means- understand how divorce works. [/quote]

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