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[quote=Anonymous]I also think it’s telling how quickly people rush to defend the person leaving instead of sitting with the scale of what was actually lost. We’ve become so individualistic that people now talk about spouses and children almost like collateral damage in someone else’s self-development arc. And yes, maybe he was deeply unhappy. Maybe the marriage had problems. Most long marriages do at some point. But I think there’s a huge difference between “this relationship became truly untenable despite serious effort” and “I hit middle age, got attention from someone new, and decided my internal dissatisfaction justified blowing apart a family system.” A lot of people want the rewards of marriage, parenthood, loyalty, shared history, caregiving, and deep attachment without accepting the burden and responsibility that come with maintaining those things over decades.[/quote]
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