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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I were talking last night and I’d love a third-party perspective.

Our 17-year-old son is planning to have around 7 friends stay at our beach house for five nights this summer, and we’re more than happy to host. I’ll plan on having breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the boys (and probably ordering pizza one night), plus having snacks around etc… though I’m sure the boys will also grab food when they’re out.

My question is: would it be tacky to ask each parent to Venmo a small amount to help cover food for the week? If so, how much  I am leaning towards yes. DH brought it up- I wouldn’t think twice about covering it if it were a one-time thing, but last summer we had kids in and out nearly every weekend. I love having the kids there and am always happy to have extra kids around so I don’t want this to imply any different. [/quote]

I think that is tacky, sorry.  I would think it was tacky even if you were not rich (hosting means hosting, not running a hostel where they pay for their food), but I think it's insanely tacky coming from someone with a beach house.  If you think it's going to be a hardship to feed that many boys, you should have said DS could bring 3 or 4 friends, not 7.  [/quote]

Sorry but this is incredibly dumb. The kid wants to invite 7 friends, likely because it’s more fun, and he’s the sociable type. The point is not telling him he’s not allowed to invite that many, the question is how to navigate the situation with 7 friends coming over for a week.

OP can let the parents know all meals are outside and the friends should bring money, and alternatively kids can choose to do their own groceries, or pool money for shared groceries. They can choose what works for them. That not tacky and is giving them options.

I think it’s actually tacky to complain about it when the OP is doing the friends and their parents a favor in the form of free housing. If I’d hear parents grumbled, that’s low class and their kid is disinvited. Have fun spending time with mom and dad at 17 when the boy crew is having fun on the beach and grilling stakes in the evenings.[/quote]

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