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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are they guests?

If so, yes, tacky to ask for money.

But, those parents should be offering up front, what can we send our teen with?  Can we send/give you money.

If I had a beach house and could host friends, I would.  I would not proactively charge anyone.  [/quote]

They appear to be guests of the son. So let the money talk go through him to his guests. It's not like he has a job and can afford to feed them all week.[/quote]

Perhaps, but these are minors and OP and husband are supervising. I would pay for normal meals and household supplies for the stay and expect them to come up as a group for extras like lobster. [/quote]

Do you often have a group of 17yr olds at your beach house or is this just a super hypothetical for your 6yr old?[/quote]

Nah, she’s thinks she’s generous because she bought a meal for the daughter’s friend at Chuck E Cheese.

I’d pay for a large group for a day, like having a party. I’d pay for one friend to join a family vacation, although if my kid was going I’d insist I pay his share.

[b]But a group of nearly adults for a week, no, they have to pitch in, plan their groceries, and cook for themselves. I’d help, but they are not entitled to a butler and a maid. I agree at that age it’s the teens inviting friends over, it’s a good lesson to have your teen let the others know how much to contribute.[/b]

I don’t understand the concept of whoever invites pays. The default is everyone pays their share, unless it’s mentioned explicitly otherwise.[/quote]

I actually love this.
I have a 16 yo so I'm kind of still at that stage of gracious me let me venmo some money post haste!
But better (and 16 yo could do well at this and get some practice) is to send the teen with their debit card and let them figure it out. It's great practice for a group of teens.

One might always pay and one might never pay. One might step up and plan and split! They need to learn this for college. Some of them will start to be takers and some will feel taken advantage of. They will learn how to be adults!

(and even that's no guarantee... so many threads on here about adults splitting vacations and meals and lots of resentment! It seems we never get it right)[/quote]

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