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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These are the kinds of issues that the author of The Millionaire Next Door talks about.  You might send your child to public school but if it's public school in an expensive area, then there are going to be expectations about things like how you socialize, the value of the gift you bring to the birthday party, the kinds of clothes your kids wear, what amount of money the school might ask for for things like PTA, teacher gifts, field trips, etc.

I remember going to a party at a neighbors' house and being surprised that they had had it catered.  Just because you can afford the house in the good school district, you might not be able to afford the accompanying lifestyle.  Or you can, but then you're not going to save a lot of money.

I was raised extremely working class so this has been a struggle for me -- the expectation that my child would have her hair professionally braided and put up for prom, the expensive dress, etc.

And I think if you are not raised wealthy, a lot of this comes as a surprise.  I was surprised that membership in the pool club was not sufficient for my child to be on swim team, but that there was an expectation that they would also take private swimming and diving lessons.

Unfortunately, with the pre-teen, it will only get worse.  You may want to think about whether there is a whole lifestyle that you are not on board with, and whether this is actually the environment that you want to raise your kids in.[/quote]

Good post. Before you put your DD into a fancy private school, you should have thought that it comes with lifestyle. It's not like you just pay tuition. Why did you put your daughter in a fancy private school? What was the purpose? She's not able to network or even socialize with others who are way above her in wealth. She's sticking out like a sore thumb. [/quote]
Yeah, no.[/quote]

Yeah, yes. I was this girl. Parents didn't ever believe me about the peer pressure.

I have never been to my private school reunion, never given money, and have no desire to see anyone except for my best friend from private school. Other, richer girls made it very clear I needed to stay in place.

It's fine to go to private school, OP needs to deal with the emotional and peer pressure and figure out how they are going to make this work if they keep her in private school.

For every parent out there who isn't giving her and giving their kids wads of cash, there are two who are.

Just wait until rich kids can afford drugs in high school. [b]On the plus side, no one ever offered me any drugs for free and I couldn't afford to buy them[/b]![/quote]

I know this isn’t the point of the thread, but this part made me laugh!

I also remember DARE from elementary school and I was just thinking, not once in my life have I been offered free drugs. 😂 They should change their messaging 😂 (one of the few upsides of having no money I guess) [/quote]

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