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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is super viral. Would you be okay with your husband at a hotel behaving like this? They claim nothing happened.

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The two in question deny any affair and her NY Times bosses back up her denial. They claim they were at the ritzy $2,500 night couple's resort in Arizona with a group of friends. Sleuths have gone back and clipped the reporter’s TV hits and she’s been publicly ridiculing her husband going back years. Years ago she was accused of sleeping with a married Washington Commanders executive for scoops, by his wife.[/quote]

The hug in that picture looks awkward, not intimate. I have plenty of male friends and I could envision pictures of me with them like this and it would mean nothing except that our spouses were probably at the bar or back in the rooms or off playing golf.[/quote]

I don’t hug my male friends and they don’t hug each other. All of my friends are male. [/quote]

I don't know if you're male or female, but I'm the PP and I'm a female. I absolutely hug my male friends. My husband also hugs his male friends. And his female friends. [/quote]
Do you also hang out alone with them in pools and hot tubs?[/quote]

On private suite rooftops? No, I don't. On vacation if there are a bunch of us there? Yes.

I brought this up with a couple we just vacationed with over spring break (our daughters are friends and it was a family trip). I asked the husband if he would be in the hot tub (which were located throughout the resort and always near a pool/bar, so not private) with just me if his wife and my husband were up in the rooms or somewhere else. He said absolutely not because of the optics. His wife and my husband said they wouldn't care. I also wouldn't care, but to each their own.

I grew up in CA and find that I am far more laid back than some of my friends. I'm also 10 years younger than the couple we were with (they had their children much later in life). Anyway, I thought it was illuminating because I wouldn't really care what someone walking by thought (i.e. I know nothing is going on, so why would care if someone else thought that?) as long as my husband wasn't bothered. I think you'd have to be pretty stupid to do something in a public hot tub when your spouses are somewhere close by so to me it would have to be innocent but I respect him a lot and his answer was no so I'm pondering it now.

Anyway, we have a large friend group and we do vacation together and one time a husband and I were at the pool together swimming and then sat on the edge and chatted. I didn't think anything of it because we've been friends for ages and we were in a public place. [/quote]

Very bizarre that you think it is normal to ask a husband of a friend to hang out with you in a hot tub alone.[/quote]

Sigh. I didn't ask him to join me, I asked him about his thoughts since we had just been at a resort with hot tubs with our families. Also, I wouldn't invite my friend's husband to come hang out with me in the hot tub, I'm saying I could see a situation where all the adults would be in and our spouses would leave to go back to the rooms to shower and it would be just the two of us. It wouldn't bother me, my husband, or my friend, but her husband said he would have gotten out at the same time because he doesn't like the optics of the two of us in the hot tub without our spouses.

I do know of one man (currently divorced but dating) who I would definitely not be alone in a hot tub with (1) because I don't particularly trust him, (2) because he's not married so it might be easier for people to think there's something going on, and (3) he used to be a swinger, which is part of (1). I know my husband also would not want me alone with that guy and he's said as much. All our other male friends? He wouldn't care. Anyway, people are allowed to disagree about this. I tend to not care much about optics but I'm not a public person, my job isn't related to any image that I might have, and I trust myself and my husband and we have a marriage where we could discuss something like this.[/quote]

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