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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. People on here are petty and jealous.

I know a number of scenarios similar to what this girl wants. Yes, she’s going to have to compromise on some things here and there, but there definitely is the model of attractive/attentive woman who marries a career focused man who wants someone to cater to them. This is not as uncommon as people on here want to admit. In my world, this woman typically comes with some sort of ‘acceptable’ background- went to a good school, from an UMC family, and typically has some sort of limited use but interesting degree/education.

Examples that I know. 
MFA with a lawyer from a wealthy family 
Studio art major with a cardiologist 
Art history major with finance/business bro 
Special ed degree with a doctor (btw- this is the exception to ‘useless’ degree)

None of these women worked [/quote]

Sure, but normally these women are functioning members of society even if their focus is on the home.  They are on the board of the library, part of the local women’s club, volunteering in schools.  In many cases they have traveled and worked a bit before focusing on home life.  They’re not 22 year old passenger princesses who seem to lack interest in all basic adulting skills, but claim they will figure everything out for a ‘high quality’ man.  [/quote]

Maybe we need to define what "high quality" actually is. The careers she seems to want potential husbands to have may be prestigious but sometimes aren't roads to wealth. Unless 35 year old surgeon had family who paid for med school he may have significant student loan debt and may not be able to provide the lifestyle the wannabe wife wants.

Maybe she needs to figure out what kind of family money she needs or yearly income she needs to provide her preferred lifestyle.

A man with inherited real estate in a prestigious zip code and a merely acceptable umc job may be able to provide her with the lifestyle she wants.

But, what kind of monthly, yearly or lifespan dollar amount does she need? What kind of house does she want in what kind of neighborhood? She doesn't drive, so doesn't need a car. But, presumably someone else will need to take the future kids somewhere. What kind of household help does she want? How many nannies? Where does she want to travel? What types of hotels? Does she want a summer house? Does she come with a dowery or inheritance of her own or merely the aura of a "good family"? If she has a dowery or significant trust fund of her own it makes her negotiable power better. A wealthy non driving heiress could live her best life with a surgeon with student loan debt? What's the dollar amount she needs for her preferred lifestyle? Maybe you should help her work on a spreadsheet with estimated costs for the line items of her expected future life? Figure out what she brings to the merger other than a 4.0 and a submissive nature. Also, is genuinely a blank slate of submissiveness? Or is she a passive aggressive passenger princess? If so that may have to be part of the pre nup strategy. She sounds like the younger version of the wife of a radiologist I know. But, radiologists used to make more money. [/quote]

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