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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I am someone who will never remarry who has commented on this thread. I am 48 (f) and have been divorced for 6 years. You don't know what you are talking about. Many people who are divorced don't want to remarry. It (marriage) was bad the first time...only a stupid person would put themselves into a marriage again. You can have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Cohabitating or remarrying is kind of stupid financially and legally past 40. You are not "buliding a life" at that point. You've made those decisions already. Just enjoying time with someone is all that is desirable. Overcomplicating it like you are in your 20s is completely immature and unecessary. Most divorced people I know share my position. There is a reason remarriage rates have gone done. It is just not worth it. Once is enough."

Wow! This discussion clearly touched a nerve.

It's interesting that your arguments in favor of not remarrying consist of nothing more than assertions that it's something only a stupid person would do. Can you articulate even one actual reason that two adults who see one another as "their person" should not join forces in marriage or in a marriage-like situation? Why would that make them stupid?

If you're one of those people who believe the only reason for marriage is to have children, do you also believe that people who are infertile at 25 should never marry? What about married couples who lose their child to some horrible disease or accident? Should they divorce since there's no point to being married unless there are kids?

And as far as not building a life together, are you truly so blind to the fact that many people continue to grow and thrive well after the age of 50?! I know people starting new careers at that age. I know people using those years to actively sock away as much money as possible for retirement, which is much easier to do when you have just one mortgage between the two of you. Most professionals don't retire until their late 60s. The retirement age for full SS benefits is 67. OP has 21 years till he hits 67. Hopefully, he has another 15 years after that do enjoy life with "his person."

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I am the same person who said people should not marry after 40.

And I do think people should not marry unless they want kids. But if they do, do it before 40 (the marriage).

It is stupid to merge assets after 40. (Woman here.) there is just no reason for it. In most cases, people are not having kids after four together they’re first getting married and by 40 you build some of your own wealth and there’s no reason to complicate things and shared at that point; you can buy a house together without getting married, if you want to live together, for example.[/quote]

What??? What you are saying is BS. Economic life doesn't end at 40. People may still benefit from economy of scale for jointly earned cinema or assets which may be particular beneficial in retirement. Men in my view should bring more to table as they age first, require care first, and are more likely to abandon spouse if she gets sick [/quote]

"earned income, pardon.

And nobody is encouraging here to merge all assets, you are taking it all to the extreme[/quote]

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