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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Not that PP but calling an Uber or a friend is not hard. (and not a reason to be married...)"

There is no facility I know of in the DMV that allows you to have an Uber take you home after sedation. Not a single one. I asked for the PP to share that info because it would be fabulous if that does indeed exist around here. They ask you when you check in for the name of the person who brought you there and who will be the one they notify if there's a problem during the procedure. They ask for their cell number in case they can't find them in the waiting room when you're ready to be sent home. I'm guessing that people who think this is NBD aren't at an age when they do these with much frequency and don't have friends who are at that stage of life yet. I happen to be close to someone with a rare condition that requires a colonoscopy annually and our friend circle rotate driving him since he has no spouse, so I'm very famliar with how this works.

And no, you cannot just call a friend. Well, if you happen to know lots of retired people or others who don't have day jobs, you probably won't feel comfortable asking a friend to take off work and use their PTO to drive you there and home. It takes at least half a day of PTO. And I've never worked for an employer (in govt, private, and non-profit sectors) that let me use sick leave to care for someone who is not a family member. So, you'd be asking your friend to use their precious vacation time to help you out.

I'm not saying this is the reason to be remarry. But I think this is a great example of how society and real life are not set up for people who are single, especially as they age.

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You are correct. I had to hire somone and pay for their time to take my mom to such small procedures. It takes half a day

But in my view, [b]aging men are even more susceptible to loneliness and require more care early on. [/b]I wouldn’t want to be a primary caregiver to my partner if they categorically didn’t want to marry me.  Just have your adult kids then arrange for all logistics and cook that chicken broth and tuck your duvet under your toes

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My dad is 85 and recently he had surgery and we didn't know. He didn't tell anyone. My parents have been divorced for 30 years and dad never remarried.

He found a service that provided medical escort. He ensured the pain and stress alone. And he had a serious surgery too where they removed a few sections of his colon. I was really upset when I found out. But he just wants to be alone.

Men are stubborn. The degree to which they are happy living in isolation and alone is crazy.

2 weeks later he is back to Hiking. [/quote]

Most men are not like your dad. He's honest with himself about his needs and wants and lives alone. OP is trying to have the cake and eat it, too, by not marrying his GF. Hard pass long term for me[/quote]

+1. PP's 85:years old dad I am just a loner and not giving false hopes to anyone. He is probably living a happy life. OP on the other hand is still confused and unhappy.

It should be common knowledge to most men that women have no interest in being forever girlfriends regardless of whether they have been married in the past or not.
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Women who have their own money and kids are fine with being an indefinite girlfriend.  When he gets sick, his kids can figure out his end-of-life care, not us.  Our money remains protected for our own kids.  And living alone, after a lifetime of cleaning up after people, is peace.  Sleepovers are always fun, but it's so nice to have your own space. [/quote]

This is only good in theory, In reality, couples make life changing adjustments to be with each other long term. They decline jobs, decide on their place to live to be closer to partner, may share properties, sync retirements etc. This by far requires much higher investment of time, alternative costs, lost income, lost fun, sacrificing your time with friends and relatives for your partner etc. Forever GF rarely works, only maybe for celebrities [/quote]

Why would anyone do that for someone they met in their 50s or later?  I'm not giving up a job, income, proximity to family, or the place I live for a new marriage in my 50s.  That's just dumb, frankly.  Protect your peace. [/quote]

+1. well put![/quote]

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