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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - my DH thinks the same as you. He knows I don’t want her to move in, and that I don’t like his mother. He wouldn’t want my mother to move in and finds her annoying.

But I understand we have to do something. I looked into assisted living and it looks like it’s around 10k a month. I think she should live on her own as long as possible, then we move her to apt near us when we have to, then in with us if necessary with the help of an aide, then a facility. I’m trying to minimize the financial damage - we have kids that those resources should go to.

As much as I resent her for this and more, I realize we have to have some plan. I also refuse to spend the next 10 years walking her to bathroom, giving her baths, ect…[/quote]

NP. This is our situation as well and this is our plan. I was thinking the apartment with an aide as long as possible before moving her in. If MIL moves in though, I would end up spending most of my time elsewhere, like work, gym, travel. I won’t have much of a marriage anymore. So, maybe it’s better to let her money go towards her own care and not to my kids. Her daily presence could ultimately ruin our marriage and the thing is, I know if my mother moved in, DH would feel the same way.[/quote]

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