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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are never, ever going to get them to see the light. You are wasting huge amounts of your emotional bandwidth trying to get them to change. THEY WILL NOT CHANGE. You need to actually be no contact and not care what they think.[/quote]

All of this.
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Lol, without even knowing any of the issues, here you are with  the NO CONTACT torch. This says it all. This is a problem.

You know,  I've  been wondering why, particularly now, when  everything  is at stake here and around the world- so much  injustice, the loss of democracy, racial and xenophobic crises, misogyny- here you younger [b]females[/b]  are focusing on yourselves and issues you have with your parents. What happened? Because, ( and I'm  sure there are exceptions....yes) for the most part you are not out there protecting,  helping immigrants,  low income  families, immigrants , or even fighting  for abortion rights. Do you not see what is happening! You're all still whining  about your childhoods.  You guys were the prototypes  for the child centered family! You got the trophies, the prizes, the catering  to. If you were abused, there were laws.  In fact, the whole generation  was overprotected. 
It was your mother's  generation  that fought for peace, that fought for racial equality,  that fought for womens' rights that you are enjoying today.

There's more work to be done,  but all I generally see now are  only older women  still fighting for  the stuff we are losing now  and for the stuff we  still need to have.

OP- your parents weren't abusive. It's clear here by what you are saying and not saying. We ALL do  not have time for this whiny nonsense - there is work to be done today. If you can  sit down and write a 5 page letter,  may I suggest some other worthwhile activities  at this time. Before  you know  it, your parents  will be  gone, and  you will be left with your 5 page diatribe and a country that has gone to $#!t. There's better use of  your time.
 **And your parents deserve more than this.

**A side note- you better get it together  because health care us going down the tubes- lack of H1B visas will halve  our medical  personnel  starting  now, immigrants  who comprise  all elder care will  be gone. Insurance  will be unobtainable.  You can discuss your life long grievances while  bathing and toileting your mom, because,  yes, it will be you. [/quote]
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