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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have a weird idea of no contact. Stop contacting them if you want to be no contact.[/quote]

The interactions described was before NC.   - OP[/quote]

But you want to contact them again to explain no contact. Leave them alone. And also they gave you the TL, DR treatment because 5 pages (was it front and back?) might have been too much.[/quote]

Because I love them, and their time on earth is getting shorter and shorter, and it makes me sad, but yes, you are correct.  - OP

It's just not that easy to let go[/quote]

[b]Unless they molested you, or physically abused you in unspeakable ways, basically something incontestable, they may disagree with you. [/b]

If you care for that relationship you can’t keep bringing up your hurt every time you communicate with them. It’s exhausting for them too.

Just because you feel a certain way, doesn’t mean that it’s true. You are essentially at a standstill. They see it in a way which you do not see it in, and vice versa.

‘You made me feel insecure when you corrected my choices.’ could have a reply of ‘you were heading off a bridge at this and that occasion and you were not taking any hints. We had to do what we had to do to stop you. We got worn out from redirecting you kindly and we just had to put a stop at the nonsense. Now we just remember that we put so much effort into you, and you seem ungrateful. You must not love us.’

I’m saying this with a lot of care for you OP, not to attack you, but to give you a different perspective. [/quote]
A lot of parents who did all those still think they are great parents and don't understand why their child would go NC. Some people just don't get it. [/quote]

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