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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The whole “someday you will be a grandparent” bit is so tired.

Yes, someday I hope to be a grandparent. And because I wasn’t raised in a barn, I would never throw out plans to busy parents with kids with only 24 hours of notice. I will respect my kids and their spouses enough to make invitations with lead time, and I’ll be open to alternate plans. We’ll figure out something that works for everyone, then we’ll enjoy each other’s company.

This will work especially well for things where you KNOW WHAT THE SPECIAL DATE IS, and can plan accordingly. It’s not like birthdays move around, FFS. [/quote]

This is a son problem, not DIL problem.

My MIL lives a short flight away. I have been with DH for 20 years and we have never once celebrated MIL’s birthday together. She did have a 70th birthday recently and DH flew up for her birthday and said we did not have to go since our kids had conflicts.

My parents also live out of town. I visit my mom and dad every year the weekend before or after their birthdays. Some years the whole family goes. Other years I take the kids only.

OP’s husband is the one to blame in this situation. He should have made plans for his mother’s birthday. Sat or Sun would have been fine I’m sure. The lack of effort and last min cancellation would hurt my feelings whether it was a spouse, child, family or friend. [/quote]

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