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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some defenders on this thread are missing a crucial point when they say “if you’re too mentally stressed to handle it, don’t do it.” It’s not that women are so stressed they just can’t possibly do it. It’s that she’s doing all that - even taking just an hour a day - while her husband gets to relax, watch tv, scroll his phone. We’d love the opportunity to have downtime too![/quote]

What's stopping you? Truly. Analyze where you spend your time and energy, and then stop doing the stupid shit that truly doesn't NEED to get done. Choosing to run yourself into the ground isn't grounds for resentment. You did that to yourself. If you're unhappy, STOP. If you want downtime, take downtime. Quit blaming your spouse and kids for your inability to manage your time in a way that doesn't leave your burnt out and bitter.[/quote]

What’s stopping us is the fear that our kids will be sad. That’s the point of the thread. Men know we love our kids so much, we won’t risk that. [/quote]

DP I was often sad and disappointed as a kid when I didn't get what I though I wanted/deserved. I always got what I needed.

Consider what is necessary for the fulfillment of a holiday given limitations. Avoid weaponizing sad-risk against yourself because you think stockings are a requirement.  [/quote]

+1 Seriously. Kids can be sad, disappointed, etc. It's actually good for them to experience this in childhood, and to learn the difference between reality and fantasy. "Santa" doesn't magically make Christmas happen. Parents do. Gifts cost money and fancy dinners take time and effort. Teach your kids what's real and they'll actually appreciate it instead of growing up entitled and stunted.[/quote]

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