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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Idiots will say idiotic things. I just don't react when that happens.

OP, you are right to feel offended.  But, refusing to host for this reason is unnecessarily confrontational.  I just do not give weight to any nonsense that others speak.  Elderly tend to lose their filter and will say such things. This is age-related cognitive decline. [/quote]

Not hosting isn’t confrontational.  It’s literally nothing.  MIL can offer to host them and show them how it’s done, or else she can figure out Christmas di. We herself.[/quote]

LOL.  Do you have friends and relatives who want to hang out with you?

It is a sign of high EQ and IQ, if you can keep interactions pleasant and de-escalate temper tantrums.  Being unnecessarily confrontational is as bad as being a self-suffering doormat.  If you do not have the skill and poise to keep things pleasant and humming along - you may well be the problem. 
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You keep insinuating that anyone with boundaries has no friends. I can't speak for everyone else, but it's quite the opposite here. And we also treat each other well and don't tolerate jerks - so none of us are jerks. It works kind of perfectly.

Having a small family dinner is not confrontational - unnecessarily or otherwise. It's not my responsibility to police other adult's temper tantrums. What a bizarre assertion. [/quote]

+1,000[/quote]

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