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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m pretty sure that my DH’s secret habit is what led him to pull away from our marriage and become verbally and emotionally abusive and very, very angry. Before he stopped touching me altogether he started asking for very specific things and getting pouty when I set boundaries, just as others described.

I wish I had found a way to look at his phone or computer before he left to see what was really going on. I’ll never know for sure. My fear now is that he is using it while he has custody of my kids. It disgusts and repulses me in a way that is far worse than when it was under my own roof, but I can’t articulate why.[/quote]

Redpill forums on the Internet have harmed men and marriages way more than porn ever will. I also, obviously, have no way of knowing; but your husband's change looks a lot to me like he was following "redpill" advice from Internet strangers: push boundaries, act dominant, do a 180, make her chase you; women say they want a partner, but really they want a leader, etc. [/quote]

PP you’re responding to and I was trying to not be explicit but what my DH was doing was requesting or trying specific sex acts without consent and moving and manipulating my body in ways that he has never done before which seemed very obviously cribbed from somewhere. Then the angry behavior followed when I wouldn’t go along with it. 
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"very obviously cribbed from somewhere" - exactly describes the affect porn had on my partner - our sex, which I once thought was good, became bad for me because it was clear that I had become a doll manipulated for a scenario in someone else's head.  Porn wrecked what had been authentic good sex for me.  [/quote]

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