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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid asked teachers last spring as instructed but one hasn't submitted yet for a Nov 1 deadline. There's no excuse for this. [/quote]

But it’s not late. Honestly if you have a personal deadline that doesn’t align with the actual deadline i would think that you would negotiate this with the teacher that is doing the recommendation. That way you’d have clear expectations for a letter before the deadline. If you didn’t then you have no reason to complain. [/quote]

Ok but why wait until literally the last minute. Tomorrow is 10-31 and the deadline is Nov 1. [/quote]

Because it doesn't matter. Other things take priority.[/quote]

The issue is we don't know if she will actually get it in. [/quote]

NP. You may have an issue but it is your own issue.  If you get a bill and pay it on the due date, are you in the wrong?  Sure the business would prefer you send it in earlier but you really aren’t required to.  Your anxiety and lack of ability to trust your kid’s teacher to do what he or she has committed to is a “you” problem. [/quote]

I don't think I'm being unreasonable to wonder where the letter is when it's the last minute before the deadline. It's not like my kid's future is riding on this or anything. [/quote]

If you were my mom, I wouldn’t tell you about the status of the teacher recs or flat out lie to you if you asked - that’s would be the only way to deal with your anxiety.

If you were my kid who is stressed that people don’t do what they are asked to do, I would talk to you about how trusting people often leads to better outcomes in interpersonal relationships.

If I were the kid worried that my teacher wouldn’t meet the deadline because I am a stress basket, I would have talked to them ahead of time and asked if they would be willing to get the letter in a week early because I have anxiety. I would explain that I am working on it but wanted to ask for their support in addition to the huge favor they are already doing by writing a rec.   And I would never choose a teacher who had a reputation for being late. [/quote]

Weird take but I think we'll follow the counselor's advise rather than yours. The counselor is worried about this too and flagged it and suggested following up with the teacher. [/quote]

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