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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Long story short, I eventually prevailed after threatening to buy and send the tickets myself -- because I knew they really wanted to go. The conversation ended with a "fine, I'll do it but ...[/quote]

NP here. Hoping the above poster will read this. Poster, the communication between you two needs to change. Each of you need to re-train yourselves to: say what you mean and mean what you say. And trust/respect that each of you have communicated this way. Not this dance-around, taking pride is "knowing" what's best for the other or what the other truly wants (or should want), but isn't saying. It's not a good approach to love to believe you have the power to second-guess what someone else says. To think you are caring/loving or think you know them better than they know themselves. It leads to all kinds of confusion, issues of control, and emotional manipulation. Minimally, it leads to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Say what you mean and mean what you say. And trust that the other person has done the same. Change your communication style for far greater happiness.[/quote]

My advice to that crazy ex wife coddling her ex husband is to just drop the rope and let him sit home and be a vegetable. [/quote]

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