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I’ve struggled with people pleasing my entire life and am only starting to realize at 40 years old that being empathetic and being a pushover aren’t the same thing. I’m the mom who sees the left out kid and says “come on, the more the merrier,” often ending accidentally biting off lots more this I’d planned (or am equipped) to chew. We have a small home, my husband works FT from the attic and we have 3 children and a host of activities of our own. Sometimes the overwhelm leads to a shitty play date and chaos that I’m left cleaning up long after friends have been picked up (unless I’m driving around dropping everyone off). For that reason, I’ve made a specific effort this year to keep things small and easy.

The above comment is absurd. My kids have awesome friends and because their school is small, the parents are all pretty close as well. No one thinks I’m a “bad friend” or that my kids are unkind to their kids because they can’t all come over at one time. It’s just how life works. People have jobs and plans and logistics and that’s normal. OP should teach her kid that now instead of creating some weird insecurity that will ensure both mom and daughter are absolutely crushed going forward. Boundaries are healthy. Actually they’re part of solid friendships regardless of age.

OP, don’t be like my mom. Set a better example for your daughter and show her what it actually means to advocate for yourself.[/quote]

Thank you for this comment! I actually found several PPs talking about how “they themselves would demonstrate inclusivity but won’t demand others do the same” quite absurd. How much inclusivity are we talking about here? One child demands to be included? Or 2? Or 5? What about the whole class? Or the kids in your whole neighborhood? Come on, People! Be realistic! This is not time for you to act like you have the moral high ground and empathy for OP. This kind of comment would only strengthen OP’s view that this other mom was at fault by not being inclusive! Everyone has their limit. Period. Inclusivity isn’t an issue in this scenario.[/quote]

I think most people who said they would take on one more kid were responding to the actual scenario-  which was one more kid.   But they also said the other mom wasn't wrong for sticking to her max playdate number of 3.  Idk why these comments irked so many people or made people ponder alternate scenarios like multiple additional kids.  That wasn't what happened here according to OP's post.[/quote]

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