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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, these people aren't real friends. They are faux friends. Both to you, and to your daughter. It's okay to teach your daughter that most people are fake. They don't really meant it. People are full of talk, but they don't walk the walk. People can be hypocritical. It isn't your kid's fault that other people aren't honest dealers. Tell your daughter to hold her head up high and look for better friends.[/quote]

I’ve struggled with people pleasing my entire life and am only starting to realize at 40 years old that being empathetic and being a pushover aren’t the same thing. I’m the mom who sees the left out kid and says “come on, the more the merrier,” often ending accidentally biting off lots more this I’d planned (or am equipped) to chew. We have a small home, my husband works FT from the attic and we have 3 children and a host of activities of our own. Sometimes the overwhelm leads to a shitty play date and chaos that I’m left cleaning up long after friends have been picked up (unless I’m driving around dropping everyone off). For that reason, I’ve made a specific effort this year to keep things small and easy.

The above comment is absurd. My kids have awesome friends and because their school is small, the parents are all pretty close as well. No one thinks I’m a “bad friend” or that my kids are unkind to their kids because they can’t all come over at one time. It’s just how life works. People have jobs and plans and logistics and that’s normal. OP should teach her kid that now instead of creating some weird insecurity that will ensure both mom and daughter are absolutely crushed going forward. Boundaries are healthy. Actually they’re part of solid friendships regardless of age.

OP, don’t be like my mom. Set a better example for your daughter and show her what it actually means to advocate for yourself.[/quote]

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