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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are not selfish. Your kids come first. FYI, I have worked in law firms my entire adult life and there are none that have ever hired a HS intern. He wouldn't be able to do much more than make copies, scans and deliver mail to employees. No 16 yr old would be trusted to do anything related to clients, they don't know how to research properly and it's not a good investment of time to teach them just for a summer.

Nobody in your family has ANY proof that this kid doing this internship would lead to a college scholarship. And he can get into law school based on his college GPA and LSAT scores - nobody will care about his summer job in HS by that time. [/quote]

OP here: Maybe internship is not the best description. It’s a program associated with a legal organization that allows high schoolers to ”intern” at private legal practices. My understanding is that it’s primarily doing pretty basic tasks and shadowing lawyers, with some educational elements. The organization that organizes the program offers a couple scholarships for graduates of the program. They offer housing, but from my understanding is that housing is too expensive for my sibling’s family - thus looking for other housing.[/quote]

Then you pay for the housing provided or offer to pay for an AirBnB for kid + your mom/ sibling. A 16-year-old shouldn't live in a basement!

My parents died when I was young and we then lived with an aunt who never married. She always had to work and we were the "poorest" of the family. 
My other aunts and uncles had means ($) and lived close, but did not do much for us.  They gave their own children literally everything including college counseling, internship advice, called their friends to get their kids jobs after college, etc.  My grandparents helped how they could, but support from my aunts/uncles who knew how it all worked would have been appreciated.  I asked and was basically told it wasn't their problem.

I am successful now all on my own.  My sibling who is brilliant, super wiz kid, had issues because we didn't know "the game."  If she had received a little advice when she asked for it, she could have soared (I know this as a friend is a Dean of Admissions at an Ivy).  He will remember how you treated him.  I can say first-hand one particular family member was jealous of how brilliant my sibling was and did all they could to tear that down in favor of their own kids.

Now, these aunts and uncles need help from my spouse and me.  They get what they gave which is nothing.  You don't have to house him if you don't want, but if you have the means pay for the housing with this program.  It would be a kindness, he won't forget it, and invite him over for dinner/brunch once a week.    [/quote]

[b]PP, here is the major difference between you and OP's nephew: you were orphans. To mistreat an orphan is not only shitty, it's against God's teachings. What your relatives did to you is just disgusting. In OP's case, the kid has parents who refuse to parent him and instead unload him on others. It is not OP's job to educate him at the expense of her own children. [/b]
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+1  yes, a major difference[/quote]

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