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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Cry harder folks. [/quote]

Ok so you're entirely too much in the right-leaning online world. That's your main problem.

Explain again how he managed to buy you a house with your money, because I still don't understand it.[/quote]

Bought a house with her money and put his name on the title.[/quote]

She got scammed! [/quote]

OP here. My name is on the house and all accounts.

Some people are being rude on here.

I have my own savings before marriage and some of my salary tucked away that is hate mine. The salary I’ve been earning since marriage has gone into a savings account. My husband used his money ( I know it’s our money) to buy the home for us. He bought me a car and paid for our wedding on his own.

It’s our money but I say he bought me a house have he wanted a different home but settled to make me happy. Both of our names are on the deed and on all accounts.

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That's not what you said before. You said it was paid for partially with your earnings. Why are you changing the story?

And why can't you say "he went with the house I preferred" or literally anything more accurate than the fictional story that you're telling about Mr Benevolent Patriarch?[/quote]

OP here. I said he paid for the house with savings. You guys fan with it that I paid to because I put my salary into savings. Different savings accounts. [/quote]

In the last post on page 7, you said "We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home." And since he is joint owner of the home, he half owns it, so at best he partially "bought you" less than half a home. So for you to say he bought you a home is untrue. Why do you feel the need to say it? He agreed to exchange joint assets for a different joint asset, and he deferred to you on aesthetics because he doesn't really care about that. That's nice, but it's not really that big a deal.[b] Stop acting like he's the Prince of Manly Generosity. He's a regular man who is nice to his wife.[/b]

If you grew up in a socially conservative culture you might not realize how weird this constant catering to the male ego seems to people who didn't grow up that way. Men might like it if they're young or insecure, and there's always some face-saving rationale when challenged, like that the wife is "the neck that turns the head". But not everyone goes for that kind of thing. It seems like you went on vacation with women who aren't used to this kind of thing and find it disingenuous and off-putting and they were a little grossed out by your Surrendered Wife routine and wanted to warn you that it can have some real down sides. [/quote]
The bar for men is literally in the ground, and some still show up with a shovel. I’m glad she has a nice person as her partner, but yeah, doing the bare minimum (or receiving it) should not be aspirational.[/quote]

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