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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, teenagers aren’t very subtle but it is a valid question. Why do you need to be at home all day and not at work? It isn’t the 1950s. Hire a cleaner and order everything like groceries, etc. [/quote]

Because your identity and value as a human being is not, and should not, be tied to paid work. Drill that into your thick head.
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She’s a dependent, just like her kids. Not a good look for an educated adult who is perfectly capable of working but would rather play tennis. [/quote]

If the things she is doing are worth paying someone for, like cooking, cleaning, driving the kids, then she is not a dependent. She is doing unpaid work. Not to mention the amount you would have to pay for all of that would likely exceed what a moderate to moderately high earner would earn.

You are sick person if you would deprive someone who does unpaid work a couple of hours of relaxation time or resources for themself. OP is doing work in the evening hours while many people are chilling in front of the TV.[/quote]

She’s a dependent if she cannot support herself and her kids. Unless she is independently wealthy, she wouldn’t ever be able to live independently. A man is not a plan. If the OP has daughters, she shouldn’t be modeling a lifestyle that causes financial dependence on a man. [/quote]

This is such a lazy, tired argument.  You have drank the capitalist kool-aid and don’t recognize your own internalized misogyny and completely screwed up value system.

Go work for money if you want to, but thinking people don’t care about the judgements of women who are stuck with the worldview they were told is correct back in middle school.[/quote]

+1. I am a WOHM but anyone who can't see that our society would lose so much value without the unpaid labor of SAHPs is an idiot. Who do you think fills many volunteer roles and spends that money you "I hate volunteering" parents donate in lieu of actually helping out for things? Sure WOHPs do too, but it's largely SAHPs. I'm so grateful for all the experiences they enable and good they do in the world.[/quote]
This is the [b]tween and teen[/b] forum. I don't know very many tween and teen parents who spend lots of time volunteering in kids' schools when the kids are that age. Parent volunteers are helpful when the kids are young, but really not beyond 3rd grade or so.[/quote]

As someone who is a volunteer for my kids high school PTA you cannot be more wrong. Sure,  Parents are not running parties and volunteering in classrooms in high school, but there is a ton of work that needs to be done by parent volunteers for the school, for sports teams, the music program, etc. You don’t have those rah rah auction fundraisers in high school like you do in elementary school so it takes a lot more work and volunteer hours to get things done when you have less money to work with. Who do you think the booster programs are run by, who is planning and running and staffing the school dances, planning all of the senior graduation celebration festivities, school pictures…. all that is parent volunteers. [/quote]
Graduation, school pictures, sports teams, music, and fundraising are all done by school staff. Optional parties for these teams and clubs are hosted by parents (most of whom work outside the home). Parents do help decorate for prom, but its a few days in the spring. Nothing that would justify needing to give up one's career  :roll: [/quote]

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