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[quote=Anonymous]I haven't read all the posts, but want OP to know this:

In Virginia, courts will usually make the husband with a good income (around $100K) pay for the wife's attorney if she has no income. And if there are kids and she has zero income, she's almost certainly going to get alimony for at least as long as the kids are under 18, and probably for life. I know several people in this situation over the past 5-10 years. In one case, this even happened when it was the working spouse (husband) who got cancer! He had to take on a second job post-surgery to cover all the extra expenses (apartment, lawyer, etc...) when she locked him out of their house. And one friend had to pay for his ex wife's attorney (she didn't work despite no kids) even though the ex wife had just received a half million $$$ inheritance that she refused to mingle and make marital property.

VA courts are super harsh to men with wives who don't or won't work, and I say this as a feminist who cares about SAHM not getting screwed over. I'm shocked at their whole "at fault" and "equitable" BS with no logical rules for handling divorce settlements in VA. It's really just up to the judge what you get, but I've never seen the non-worker spouse get screwed.

Also, be aware that she'll be able to automatically get Social Security as his former wife (using his quarters of work to qualify) once she's at retirement age, so long as she doesn't remarry.  If he's a fed employee/military, she'll automatically get a share of his retirement pension. [/quote]

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