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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hey, we are in Florida for Thanksgiving, no one is cold, house is nice, no need to worry about the meals BUT...MIL invited her nieces and nephews who DH cannot stand and she forgot to tell him about that. Until last night. Until we were already in the house. He is beyond livid. Yes the house is pretty big for everyone but he doesn't want to be in the same room with them. He insists we get another place to stay and just show up for dinner. I am having so much fun with this drama. [/quote]
We need to know why DH hates his cousins. 🍿 [/quote]

Former addicts (meth, alcohol, you name it - they've done in). Apparently they are on the road to recovery, AA, rehabs. According to MIL, "they didn't have an easy life". According to DH, "that's such BS". Doesn't want our kids to be near them. [/quote]
I’m sorry, that sounds awful. [/quote]

It is awful. I already told MIL "what were you thinking about inviting a bunch of addicts to a house with young children?" She responded with "you can't pick your family." They are her sister's kids, she somehow feels responsible for them. They are all in their 30s and 40s, how much responsibility can a 76-yo woman possibly take upon herself? Once an addict, always an addict. [/quote]
Are they actively using during the meal, stealing the tv or talking about drugs?
If they are in recovery what is the issue?
I understand not enabling addiction, or being the victim of one but WTF with hating someone because they are an addict?![/quote]

Yeah I don't get this one. Pp would make sense if they described some bad behavior. But being an ex addict doesn't mean a person shouldn't be around kids. [/quote]

I think it's fair to trust the judgement of the people who know them whether they are appropriate to have their kids around or not.  It sounds like there is a lot of backstory and after decades it's just shortened to addicts.

My family has people like this that I don't want my kids around.  They come with a host of issues and lord knows what they might talk about in front of or to the kids, and also frankly what they might leave lying around. My extended family also includes active addicts that I love dearly, and would have my kids around....in limited doses carefully monitored.  Families are complex.

If the poster's DH has a position on these cousins, and has made that position clear, and the MIL "forgot" to mention it, yeah, well, MIL gets to find out that she can't force a closeness.    [/quote]

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