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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I’ve been watching this thread with detachment and it’s interesting to see that the OP, who definitely has issues, has been reasonably restrained considering how many posters have been hissing and yowling and scratching at him. I’ve learned that a self-proclaimed HVM is someone to steer clear of, but the people going after him are far worse. [/quote]

OP here. Without question, I have issues. You just have to be committed to continued growth and evolution as a person. None of us is perfect. [/quote]

Question: What are your big 5 "issues" and how are you "committed to continued growth and evolution as a person" in regard to them?[/quote]

This will be too long of an answer to address all of that, so I will only do a few. In my younger years, I had a tendency to cut people off too easily and not give them the benefit of the doubt. I realized that this is not the healthiest impulse for forming strong connections.  I have evolved to try to have more empathy, grant people more grace for whatever difficulties they may be experiencing in moments when they have not presented themselves in the best light and tried to step outside of my own head, experiences and thought processes to better understand where I might have blind spots that don't allow me to see where they might be coming from. This is all still a work in progress. Life is hard.

Another has been communication. To keep it short, I have tried become a better, more active listener and less blunt in my approach. As has been exhibited in this thread, this is also a work in progress :)

I have a committee of trusted people who know me well enough to help point out blind spots and give me perspective, but at the end of the day you have to go with your own gut and discernment.   [/quote]

This is like the interview candidate who brings some "my biggest flaw is that I'm meticulously attentive to minor details" answer to the "what are your weaknesses" question.

"My 'big issue' is that sometimes I cut people off instead of granting them grace when I've evaluated them as beneath me." - OP[/quote]

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