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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had incredible working parents who had to work long hours and had long commutes. Of course they shaped me and my opinions and made decisions for me. We are extremely close and I’m grateful to them every day.

But the endless hours being herded in daycare, aftercare and city-run summer camps sure shaped my nervous system, my self of self-worth and my general comfort throughout childhood. Everything was controlled, confining and just so many people in my life, handling me, exposing me to all their own stresses even if they were good people. I might feel differently if I’d had a nanny.

My DH was raised by a rural sahm. He had incredible autonomy and consistency and became master of his own small universe. A kid in daycare is master of nothing.

Today we are similarly successful but he is much more resilient and self-assured. I work very part-time to try and give our kids some of what he had. Debating the semantics of who raises who distracts from the realities of American childcare [/quote]

My mom was a SAHM, I can't remember every really interacting with her. She never read me a book, hugged me, told me I was good at something, to a park or anything really.

It was wake up, get cereal, go outside and don't bother me until dinner.

After dinner it was TV upstairs without her and to bed.

My dad coached my team, watched shows with me (MASH/All in the Family/etc), went to all my sports games.

It would have been nice to have some structure, some interaction, some education during those years, anything. I would have much preferred to be in a day care.

Oddly once I grew up my mom had an in home daycare and she read to them, took them to the pool, took them to the library, took them to the park... maybe she took a class or something to become a day care provider. IDK. It was much better than my upbringing. [/quote]

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