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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]it never occurred to me that she made a mistake in choosing marriage and kids over a career. At that time the church was just constantly drilling into our heads from the time we could understand words that a woman choosing a career over marriage and kids was the epitome of selfishness and basically a sin[/quote]

I was told a lot of things at home and in temple, and I questioned everything. I thought about counter-arguments, played Devil's Advocate, asked why, etc. Just because you're told something doesn't mean it's fact or that you have to believe/live it. I have a wildly different lifestyle than what was modeled to me. [/quote]

I admire you, sincerely. Especially if you remained active. But what is the relevance here? The fact that there are some people like you who manage to dismiss the teachings of the church doesn’t mean a lot of women aren’t unduly pressured to make certain choices.  [/quote]

+1. Let's not forget she and her siblings were homeschooled by their mother. Their world was deliberately kept small. She was raised to do beauty pageants, dance, and then find a returned missionary to marry and have babies with. That's it. Hannah herself said she graduated high school not knowing the names of the planets. Think about that for a minute.[/quote]

She may have been kept small, but she wasn't small when she got into Julliard (acceptance rate of 10.6%), left home at 17, and paid her own way through Julliard with the money she made in beauty pageants. She says in the Times article, “My goal was New York City. I left home at 17, and I was so excited to get there. I just loved that energy. And I was going to be a ballerina. I was a good ballerina.”

Then she meets her future husband at a party and isn't interested in dating him (she turned him down for 6 months), presumably because she was focused on her studies and ballet at Julliard,  but he was a psycho stalker.  She mentioned she was taking a flight from SLC to NYC (not realizing at the time who his dad was), and he made a call and was sitting next to her on the flight (after being rejected for six months), then two months later they are married (though she says in the article she wanted to date at least a year), and three months after that she's pregnant.

In other words, her plan wasn't to be a Mormon housewife popping out babies in her twenties.  She was a very good dancer who moved to NYC at 17 to attend Julliard.  She got derailed by a billionaire's son's really weird ideas (even for Mormons).

She finds herself in a very different life than what she had planned. All she wanted of her old life and dreams was a shed on the farm to practice ballet, which Daniel turned into a homeschool class for the kids. He avoids leaving her alone with the reporter and speaks over her throughout the interview.

The story is heartbreaking. Is she the idealization and romanticization of a "trad wife"? Do people not bother to take the time to read and understand how influencers live?  Her story is beyond sad.

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