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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I suggest checking out the Positive Intelligence program, and possibly springing for a certified Positive Intelligence coach or therapist.

It’s a CBT-based program developed by a Stanford PhD, who developed it after working with executives who were having trouble getting out of their own way. The process involves identifying and understanding learned emotional patterns, then loosening the hold of those patterns which do not serve. One looks at the past only to limit its influence on the present.

One of the really brilliant things about the program is that it externalizes the issues as different categories of “saboteurs.” The saboteurs aren’t necessarily bad, they almost always serve some purpose. But left unexamined, they can become an emotional chokehold. Externalizing them helps the process feel less emotionally risky, and keeps it from feeling like a form of wallowing.

In other words, you’re not wrestling with inner demons. You’re just gaining the tools you need to get your “hyper vigilant” saboteur, or your “controller” saboteur, to stand down for a change.

It’s not inexpensive— I want to say it’s something like $1000 — but I found it incredibly useful. I have no connection to the program other than that I did it with a professional coach, and it was helpful. Some past stuff did come up for me, but it always had a purpose and it was never more than I could handle. Not even close.

I know there are therapists who offer it, too. Coincidentally, a friend up in New England had a marriage counselor who enrolled him in the program, totally unrelated to my professional coaching experience. He found it really helpful, too. [/quote]

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