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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this thread offended some people by shifting to what the current elderly have done wrong.

I think in light of OP's original question, I have been downsizing even though my kids are young teens. I needed an emergency overnight stay at a hospital to realize I wasn't going to live forever and thankfully everything resolved, but I was lying in the hospital bed partially stressed about what would happen if something happened to me. I'd be leaving a large amount of STUFF for DH and my kids to deal with.

So since then I've been working to be ready for the next time.[/quote]
I, too, have been thinking of how and when to commence the serious downsizing/decluttering. DC1 will head off to college this Fall, with DC2 two years from now. DH and I often joke that when we drop DC2 off for their freshman year, the “For Sale” sign is going up in the front yard. Realistically, we’ll have a few more years to hit full retirement. We both like our current employment situations and don’t feel the need to shove off just yet. But the “stuff” has to get pared down. We’re hoping the kids will take some of it as they set up their own adult lives but, personally, I won’t be offended if they don’t want any of it. They may “need” some of it but I hope they’ll be honest enough with themselves to either temporarily “accept” it or just forgo it til they can afford what they really want.

DH is more of a “saver” of the sentimental and it’ll probably surprise him (and my kids) what I’d have no issues with letting go of.

What neither of us will stand for, though, is not having our financial “house” in order. The wills/trusts are frequently updated (and will under go another major change as oldest will soon be an “adult”). THAT is the “stuff” I’m infinitely grateful my otherwise hoarder Dad also had in-place. Closing down a Life is more than just cleaning out and selling their home. Luckily, we lived close by, had a close relationship, and it was more time than aggravation involved in settling his estate (mom passed away decades ago). I still miss them both immensely and the few things of theirs in our home are daily and pleasant reminders of them. [/quote]

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