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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So OP said she did more of the housework. What would happen if she just didn’t do more than her share? Would DH pick up the slack? But just not in the way OP would want it done?

I have a feeling they fell into this pattern because OP is overly controlling about how she wants things done. Team DH over here. [/quote]

Interesting. I suspect the opposite, and that DH wouldn’t pick up the slack at all.[/quote]

I suspect no one would notice except OP.  I would bet money that 90% of the “work” she does is useless make-work BS.[/quote]

No one would notice.

It’s not like they have adult guests in their home stopping by to chat or eat a meal or watch a game and they have to sit in the pizza plates left out on the couch cushions.

Just leave them.

Okay a game of chicken with your wife.

How many days or weeks can each of you leave his dirty plates taking up a seat on the couch?

Let it sit there and remind everyone of what a great husband and father he is. 
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He didn’t leave the plate on the couch.  He set it there *while* he continued to watch the movie *with his family*.

Your insane over-the-top responses in this thread are actually indicative of YOU being a lousy wife and mother.  A show ready house every minute of every day is FAR more important to you than your family members’ feelings or comfort.[/quote]

Wrong again.

She brought up the dirty plate on the safe after the movie was over. Read all about it in the Op. he then picked a fight.

That’s their toxic pattern and how he need a reminder to do basic stuff, and how he reacts to a reminder.

Bet he did the same for reminders when a juvenile. Never outgrew that juvenile reaction. Or into good habits. [/quote]

Yes… after the movie was over.  Probably when the lights were turned on and the TV was turned off… so she noticed it.  She didn’t say anything about her husband’s whereabouts, so I assume he was still sitting right next to it.

And then SHE picked a fight.  I’m sorry but you sound quite dense with your take on this situation.[/quote]
Normal person: Yup, picking it up now.

Psycho person: shut up! Who cares! I like it there! So what! [/quote]

If someone acted "shocked" (OP's words) over such a minor thing, I would probably be defensive too. "Who cares" would be my response for sure.[/quote]

OP was 100% in the wrong here.  That’s why she came back with the sob story about all of work she does and how mistreated she is.  Because she is so far up her own a$$ that it never occurred to her that this little anecdote might reflect poorly on HER.[/quote]

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