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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is an interesting thread because like everything on DCUM -it comes down to social class and money. People that rent their second house out feel offended when asked - almost like someone is being tacky and asking for a loan (when the person asking clearly doesn’t even need it). They, rightly so, think of this in monetary terms. People with enough money to have a second home (that they don't rent out) do not think of it this way. They generally have enough money that a cleaning fee isn’t a big deal. They also tend to be friends with people that have a similar socioeconomic status. So an empty house and a cleaning fee aren’t anything between friends. While this isn’t the case for us, I think it falls into the way wealthy people operate - you stay at my ACK house and hopefully when junior needs an internship/ applies to Georgetown you will remember us.[/quote]

The wealthy people I know stay wealthy by not giving things away.  I would never ask to use someone's house, but if they offered, the $1500. + cleaning/maintenance, plus property rental tax (imposed in some jurisdictions, can be quite high), in addition to whatever fees would be in their venmo before I locked the door to leave, and every last rule would be abided by, to the letter, and the place would be spotless, and look better than when I arrived, AND there would be a gift of some sort on top of it.  You need the lawn mowed and some repairs while we are there? Sure! But not everyone is handy, and not everyone is grateful. You have to show that you are grateful, not that you have your hands out. People who have not grown up around wealthy people are less privy to the intricacies of those relationships - it is respect, more than favors.

I know some people who have a rental and they have the same renters every year for this reason.  Plus, at least one of them brings their grandfather, a contractor, who does small jobs in addition to paying full rent.  They don't have their hands out - they appreciate the rental. Nothing more, nothing less.  There is no great mystery to how it works.  They respect that the owner worked hard, nothing was given to them (they have gotten to know each other over the years), and that this is their home. Their home means a lot to them.  The home also mean a lot to the renters, who have created years of family memories there (in the same house). The relationship, their hard work and their home deserve respect - it becomes mutual when the renters go out of their way for them, because it is not a big deal for the
 renters.  If it is a big deal to you, don't participate.  Why are you trying to make it something it is not? Do you do this often?   [/quote]

I agree with the prior poster, not this person. If you don't rent your house, there is no fee. I don't know what my house would rent for b/c I've never rented it.

With that said, the quid pro quo is real! I do favors on internships all the time. That's what people want. It's not about the money, it's about the access. You stay in my house, my kids gets a summer internship.[/quote]

Sure, this whole thread is about "internships" not user "friends".  Okay, whatever you say.  /s.

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