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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some women's bodies don't bounce back from childbearing as some other women's bodies do.

Most regular working women don't have the multiple hours per day to put into fitness routines an[b]d cooking super clean healthy meals[/b], even if her children and husband would eat that food if she did.

How much of the housekeeping and life management are you doing, OP? How much of the childcare and shuttling to activities are you doing? How much shopping and cooking? How much time are you giving her to sleep, to engage in fitness, etc?

There are seasons to life, OP. Sounds like you have most of what makes a very good marriage and your wife's body paid the price to give you two beautiful children.

So yeah, you can be sad that youth has passed you by and you and your wife aren't hotties anymore, but please don't expect an outpouring of sympathy. [/quote]

I know you're trying to be empathetic, but I honestly think some people just don't want to be healthy. [b]It takes 2 minutes to open a can of tuna and dump it on a bed of kale. [/b][/quote]

NP. I find this so triggering. I’m dealing with multiple allergies and a pediatric feeding disorder. I’m already cooking multiple meals. So I throw tuna on kale. Not a single person in my family besides myself will eat tuna. Kids won’t eat kale. So now I’m cooking the meals. Pediatrics feeding disorder means I can’t just do classic cook one meal and everyone eats it or goes hungry. My kid had a BMI of 13.9.

Moral of the story: Anytime you’re tempted to say, “You can just X”, someone else literally cannot just do X. My kid would have died before eating tuna on kale. Nor can we afford to have the entire family eat the one dc’s expensive allergy diet. We have bills to pay, college to save for. For some families, food is exhausting in a way it never was for our parents. I imagine other special needs situations have similar demands in different spheres. [/quote]

I posted previously that I have friends who eat well. MANY of them eat just salad for many meals. You don’t have to eat the food you cook your family.

In that friend group, I eat the worst. When we go out to dinner, they all order salad or something healthy like a grilled seafood. They don’t eat anything fried or obviously unhealthy like cake.

I won’t eat kale with tuna but I know people who would and do. [/quote]

I'm like this. I have a super busy schedule and not a lot of time to exercise, so I'm really disciplined about eating.  I'm 48, 5'7 and 125 lbs. Imo, breaking the cycle of emotional eating is the secret.  People eat when they are sad, stressed,  neglected.  [/quote]

Pp here. I genuinely love food. I don’t eat when I’m sad, stressed or neglected. Good tasting food brings me joy. I love to travel and eat different kinds of food. I’m Asian so relatively thin even though I eat a lot of high calorie foods. I do enjoy tofu and certain low calorie foods but in general, I love tasty food.[/quote]

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