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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The olds’ hypocrisy of “The man proposes with a diamond ring on bended knee after getting permission from her father” but “I am a proud feminist” simply cannot die off soon enough.

Gag.[/quote]

Has any of the women here who expects a ring identifiex herself as a feminist?[/quote]

I don't know how they could. Feminism is about having choices and honoring the choice. Expecting a proposal and an engagement ring is anti-feminist even when it's a role reversal - their expectation is that a man will meet the expectation of gendered role simply because he's male. It's definitely contrary to feminism.[/quote]

I expected a ring and consider myself a feminist for sure.  Feminism is absolutely about a woman’s freedom to live her life the way she chooses, to vote and get an education just as any man could, to be president or a SAHM.  It doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate the differences between the sexes, both in terms of biology and society.  Seems like we disagree on what feminism is.

I don’t care one bit if a woman wants a ring or not, but I do hope in these situations it’s not a woman wanting a ring and going along with not getting one to keep her guy or appear like a cool girl.  I particularly love the greenhouse story.[/quote]

You can identify as you wish, but it's baffling how somebody who follows a movement for gender equality [b]expects[/b] to be given things just because of their gender. You might be a feminist, the the expectation of a ring isn't.[/quote]

It’s really not baffling at all. The majority of women getting engaged are [b]accepting[/b] rings.[/quote]

Hhmmm. Now you're being disingenuous. There's nothing wrong with accepting an engagement ring! Nothing at all! It is the expectation of that you should be gifted on because of YOUR gender, that you expect someone to buy you one because of HIS gender that's is anti-feminist. You know that.

A feminist cannot fight against gendered norms for women but expect them to continue for men. That's not what feminism is no matter what you like to think about yourself. Anything else is hypocritical.[/quote]

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