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[quote=Anonymous]I’m a woman who for many years performed cancer research and upon having kids moved to an adjacent field that is much more flexible. I could not be the kind of mom I wanted to be working the hours necessary to be successful. I think a lot of people fall somewhere between jobs everyone agrees are super urgent and important like an infant heart surgeon and being a cog in a machine. For me personally I find my work very meaningful and I feel obligated to use the many years of graduate and post graduate training I received for good. Now I can do a large majority of my work during the school day and by starting early while my husband gets the kids ready. My kids have maybe 2-4 hours of care from someone other than a parent. I outsource as much as I can of the other stuff like cleaning, grocery shopping and cooking so I can focus on my kids when we are all home. Things slide but very rarely things that matter to me.

You didn’t ask but my husband out earns me and probably always will. He makes more money for people who already have tons of it. I would struggle to be away from my kids the hours he is to do the work he does but I respect that he finds his work interesting and of course his income helps with the outsourcing since he also prioritizes being with out kids when he is not working. Literally no one has ever wondered why he works or suggested he should do something different despite the fact we could live reasonably well on my salary alone. Instead he is dad of the year for playing video games with them and making time for family dinner every night. And by making time I mean showing up to eat the meal I’ve cooked or obtained. Honestly my mom tells her friends about these things like it’s front page news instead of something every dad should be expected to do. The double standards are alive and well and I can only hope that conversations are better by the time my daughter AND my son are making these decisions for themselves.[/quote]

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