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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH makes enough money for me not to work right now. I quit a job that I hated last year and haven't looked for a new one. My kids are in school all day now. I'm enjoying for the first time in 20 years a chance to just decompress. 
Over the weekend, my ILs came over to babysit. My MIL, half-jokingly, asked me when I was going to stop "sitting around like a sadsack." I don't know if she thinks I'm depressed and that's why I don't work or what, but it was really offensive and caught me off guard in the moment. As background - she is a retired lawyer and so is her husband. She worked all the time and values that in a person so I imagine my choosing not to work is foreign and lazy for her to comprehend.
I sat with it for a few days and then emailed her to say that I was hurt by her remarks and that I'm enjoying some much-needed time off. 
She hasn't responded yet but I'm still fuming. My DH said he understood my feelings but that working and ambition is very important to his mother, she worked hard to get where she was and that's where she was coming from. 
My MIL is not on this forum I don't think (she's way too busy for that) so here I am venting about it...[/quote]

When last year?

I mean, there's taking break, and then there's being lazy and a mooch.

So if it was like November or something, it's probably time to get with the job hunt. If it was March of April, you're into mooch territory and my guess is your DH is actually annoyed and said something to his mother.[/quote]

Why do people "have" to work if it's not economically necessary? How does one "mooch" off a spouse? [/quote]

I didn't get the impression they have "eff you" money. So, this creates a situation where there's a lot of pressure on one person to be the financial provider. My guess is OP didn't downgrade her lifestyle proportional to downgrading her share of the family income. So, there's an opportunity cost, too. [b]Everyone should contribute -- what's her contribution now? [/b]Sitting on the couch, eaching bon bons and watching the Price is Right at 11 every day while their children are in school?[/quote]

This just in: it ain’t your business!  Or her MIL’s.[/quote]

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